Living together and
having babies together with no commitment is now the norm-–now marriage is old
fashion! This is the reason why
there are millions of single mothers, why there are so many broken homes, and why
the family unit is slowly breaking up. Also, children are being forced to live
in unhealthy environments which results in them being psychologically impaired
later on in life.
However, in relationships
such as “living together” as girlfriend and boyfriend, what kind of securities
is there? The couple can have ten
children, for all they care, and there is no law that stops a man or woman from
walking out at any time from this kind relationship.
Sadly, there are too many
teen mothers out there. They end up getting pregnant before finishing school
and cannot get a decent job. Their
boyfriends, who used them only for sex, ends up leaving them with a child. In a lot of cases, the girls are left pregnant
at a tender age of 16 or less. These girls are left heartbroken. They thought
their boyfriends who once whispered passionate words of love to lure them into
bed would stick around to help support the product of their "love”….
wrong! If these guys truly loved them, they would feel strong about making a
commitment and if they claim they are not ready to make a commitment then they
are not ready to be involved in a relationship at all.
The real shock is the
laws that govern the countries—they certainly do not help. For example, in
Britain the age of consent to have sex is 16. (That is, to be able to have sex
without being prosecuted). But to
get married at 16, people have to have parents’ permission and can only get
married without parental permission at the age of 18. Why can people have sex at 16 without parents’ permission,
but need to have their permission when getting married? Marriage is when the couple is doing
things the right way!
There was an incident a
few years back of an English girl who reverted to Islam, wore the scarf, and
got married to a Turkish man at the age of 15. There was a public outcry. People were bewildered of how a girl
can get married at the age of 15.
It was all over the newspapers and everyone was talking about it. But the contradicting thing is no one
talks about 15 year old girls getting pregnant by their boyfriends! Why should they, its now the norm! Why
is it when people want to do it the right and honorable thing, getting married,
everyone is against it?
There is nothing wrong
with getting married at a young age; Prophet Muhammad encouraged people to get
married when they reach the age of puberty. If your body says its ready to bare children, then you’re
old enough to get married. Getting married is better for the people involved,
better for the kids, and better for making society a secure place.